Why wasn’t I told about this training 3 years ago!?! Professional Crisis Management is training on how to handle aggressive, self injurious, and/or disruptive children or special needs adults. Last week I was able to attend the 22 hours class to become trained in PCM. And all I could think was I REALLY could have used this training years ago when Mr Rockstar was having aggressive melt-downs every day. Continue reading Professional Crisis Management Training
One of the biggest shocks of being a parent for me is how much you really have to teach your kids. Crazy right? Seems obvious but somehow it didn’t seem obvious before I had kids. There are so many things I assumed they would just pick up by observation? osmosis? nature? I think this is especially true when it comes to good manners. Surely they can just observe their surroundings and determine appropriate behavior? Or maybe a verbal correction/explanation one time will set them straight?
I think for some kids that are socially more sensitive this might work but especially when you are dealing with autism there is no way they are going to pick up on the subtle social cues. That is where the Montessori Grace and Courtesy lessons come in. Continue reading The Present Game – A Grace and Courtesy Lesson
About a month ago I meant to write a post saying how awesome all the kids were doing. For the first time in years we had a few WEEKS that were good with virtually no major meltdowns. Even better, the kids were playing for extended periods of times without requiring constant mediation from me. It was something I thought I would NEVER see. Mr Rockstar has never been able to just play. It felt like we had arrived at a restful oasis.
As we do all this therapy for Mr Rockstar and hours and hours of training, modeling, practicing, parenting, I wonder if any of it is really sinking in? Change seems so slow. I think this is a question we all struggle with as parents. Are my children really hearing the lessons I am trying to teach them?
Summer vacation, moving, unpacking, settling in, etc have all added up to me letting Mr Rockstar have WAY too much IPad time in the last month or so. It is just so tempting to let him have it since nothing calms him down like the IPad and it is about the only time I can leave him alone without having to check in on him every 3-5 minutes. However, it has officially has spiraled out of control. Continue reading The Day the IPad went on Vacation
Mr Rockstar just finished his second week at the Children’s Autism Center (CAC) summer Bridge program. So far it has been amazing. There is part of me that always starts to doubt that there is anything “different” about Mr Rockstar. Maybe it is all in my head. Most of the people around us don’t seem to notice. All of my friends tell me he seems perfectly normal. I start to doubt myself and think maybe he is just a stong-willed kid and I am a failure as a mom.
While in some ways Mr Rockstar has been much better the past 6 months, we still have our rough days. Today was our third time attending the Classical Conversations homeschool group.
The first week at CC was soooo hard. It took a couple hours before Mr Rockstar would get off my lap and then later during game time he didn’t really understand the rules and when he was “out” (from playing musical chairs) he hit me in the jaw while I was trying to calm him down and get him to understand he just had to wait a few minutes before he could play again.
The second week at CC was much better. Mr Rockstar was a little nervous at first but then he warmed up and he didn’t have any major meltdowns. He really loved all the songs and seemed to be making some friends. Given that his interactions at home had also been pretty good, there was part of me that started to forget his struggles.
It’s official. I hate moving. Before having kids moving was hard because I am an introvert. But now that I have kids moving is 10x as hard. It is not just my own social anxiety I have to deal with but also my kids. While I am trying to force myself out of my comfort zone to talk to new people and open up to build relationships, Mr Rockstar is vacillating between Continue reading Social Anxiety
For about a year now I have been considering getting a Fitbit. Not for fitness tracking (being a mother of 3 small children I hardly ever sit down for more than 5 minutes at a time. Wearing a cheap pedometer for a few days quickly revealed to me it is a rare day that I DON’T walk 10,000 steps. If there is a day that I miss my goal of 10,000 steps I do a happy dance…while seated.) but I was intrigued by the sleep monitoring and silent smart alarm. Ever since having kids I get in this vicious sleep cycle of: Continue reading Sleep and Activity Monitoring a 6 year old