**This post contains affiliate links and I will be compensated if you make a purchase after clicking on my links.
This is Day 25 in the series: 31 days on Living with ADHD, Autism and Sensory Processing Disorder: What We Have Tried, What Has Worked, What Hasn’t Worked, and Never Giving Up. Click here to see all the posts in this series.
We all need a break. I don’t know about you but the longer I go without finding some down time to unwind the more short tempered I get. In my mind I want to be this perfect zen mother. Besides never yelling at my kids and only having kind words to say, I also envision waking up before the kids, having some quiet time, doing pilates, and making a nutritious breakfast all to start the day. Let’s just say my expectations for the rest of my day are equally high.
I don’t know about you but I almost always get woken up a couple times in the middle of the night and usually at least one child decides to wake up before 6:30 AM. I am so NOT a morning person and I love my sleep so this is not cool. Very quickly my dreams of being a zen mother get thrown out the window. Most days if I can get a shower or go to the bathroom without children screaming and trying to batter the door down I feel like I am doing good.
So maybe my expectations are too grandiose but I do know, somewhere in the back of my mind, that I NEED to find some down time. Some time to do something relaxing. The sad thing is even when I have the opportunity to take some down time I NEVER do. There is always something else to clean, bills to pay, projects around the house, or some child having a meltdown.
Yesterday I decided I was going to carve out a few hours today to relax. My plan was to knit (Mr Rockstar has been begging for a pair of fingerless mitts) and watch a Harry Potter marathon. It was going to be glorious. I also fully intended on taking a nap. The kids have all been waking up once a night so sleep lately has been rough and I am exhausted and short tempered. I KNEW I needed a break today.
So did I take it? No I failed completely. After Mr Rockstar’s soccer game, Hubby decided he would help me do some yard work. It was supposed to start raining this afternoon and I figured why not get a little yard work done before the rain? The kids would like to play outside anyway. Besides last year we waited and waited before raking leaves until it was mid November, freezing, and pouring rain but it had to be done. A little yard work today sounded like a good idea.
The problem is I JUST CAN’T STOP! Once I start a project I want to have something to show for my work. Working for 1 hr in the yard and only having half the front bushes trimmed just doesn’t cut it. So before I knew it ….I had worked in the yard all afternoon. The yard looks great but I didn’t get my knitting or downtime. Now don’t get me wrong. It was a beautiful day to work in the yard but raking and trimming hedges isn’t refreshing quality downtime in my book.
I know if I stopped and just let go of the house, my endless to do list, and constantly hovering over the children…..it would all be just fine. A couple weeks ago I had a serious stomach bug. Other than a bad case of fruit flies and one big mess that took 6 hrs to clean up, the house and kids survived just fine. How bad would it be for me to take 30 min a day or a couple hours a week for a break? Why do I seem incapable of ever making some time for me?
After all the yard work today, I did get a quick bubble bath (thankfully I found some of my nice bubble bath. I have resorted to Elmo bubbles in the past and somehow it just doesn’t have the same vibe….you know?). Any day you get a bubble bath as a mom is a spa day right? So I guess today wasn’t a complete failure. Now I am going to try really, really, really hard to leave the dirty dishes in the sink and go knit for an hour before bed. No promises though.
Any suggestions on how to make time for yourself? What are your favorite ways to relax and get a break?