The Food Behavior Project

The Food Behavior Project

Exploring Natural Solutions for Calmer Happier Children


Mr Rockstar is dyslexic.  Shocked?  Yeah me neither.  I’ve suspected it for years (like when he first started to talk at age 3 and would actually say the ending sounds of words first and then the initial sounds?  Yeah that was a fun times.) but I am finally willing Read more →


I never thought I would be saying this.  Mr Rockstar has started screaming in rage multiple times a day and I am actually thrilled about it!   Read more →

The Present Game – A Grace and Courtesy Lesson

The Present Game

One of the biggest shocks of being a parent for me is how much you really have to teach your kids.  Crazy right?  Seems obvious but somehow it didn’t seem obvious before I had kids.  There are so many things I assumed they would just pick up by observation? osmosis? nature? I think this is especially true when it comes to good manners.  Surely they can just observe their surroundings and determine appropriate behavior?  Or maybe a verbal correction/explanation one time will set them straight?

I think for some kids that are socially more sensitive this might work but especially when you are dealing with autism there is no way they are going to pick up on the subtle social cues.  That is where the Montessori Grace and Courtesy lessons come in.   Read more →

Barbara December 23, 2015 Leave A Comment Permalink

Three Days: How and Why to Do an Electronic DeTox

3 Days: How and Why to do an Electronic Media Detox

About a month ago I meant to write a post saying how awesome all the kids were doing.  For the first time in years we had a few WEEKS that were good with virtually no major meltdowns.  Even better, the kids were playing for extended periods of times without requiring constant mediation from me.  It was something I thought I would NEVER see.  Mr Rockstar has never been able to just play.  It felt like we had arrived at a restful oasis.

Fast forward to this week, Read more →

Barbara December 17, 2015 1 Comment Permalink

My Little Therapists

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As we do all this therapy for Mr Rockstar and hours and hours of training, modeling, practicing, parenting, I wonder if any of it is really sinking in?  Change seems so slow.  I think this is a question we all struggle with as parents.  Are my children really hearing the lessons I am trying to teach them?

Big Problem, Little Problem

When Mr Rockstar finally got back into behavioral therapy this summer, his new therapists started working on teaching him the concept of Read more →

Barbara October 10, 2015 1 Comment Permalink

It Happened

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Today something I have been dreading happened.  Mr Rockstar’s aide was unable to come to co-op and sit with him.

First let me give you some background on why when I got the email at 11pm last night I could hardly go to sleep I was so worried.   Read more →

Barbara September 11, 2015 Leave A Comment Permalink



In Montessori there is this concept called normalization.  Words that come to mind in describing a child that is normalized are:

  • Calm
  • Focused
  • Intentional
  • Deep concentration for extended periods
  • Purposeful
  • Self- Aware
  • Community

Miss Princess working on the Geometric Cabinet

This quote from the North American Montessori Teacher’s Association explains normalization this way:

“Dr. Montessori observed that when children are allowed freedom in an environment suited to their needs, they blossom. After a period of intense concentration, and working with materials that fully engage their interest, children appear to be refreshed and contented. Through continued concentrated work of their own choice, children grow in inner discipline and peace. She called this process “normalization” and cited it as “the most important single result of our whole work”.”

Needless to say words like ‘calm”, “focused”, and “self-aware” are not usually used in reference to kids with ADHD, sensory issues, autism, etc.  When Mr Rockstar was attending a Montessori preschool we had many conversations over the years about normalization and whether he was or wasn’t achieving this zen state.  He never seemed to achieve normalization for more than a few days before it would fall apart.  Also, it never seemed to happen at home.  Once I started Montessori Homeschooling I longed for this chimera but it seemed hopelessly unattainable.

Well guess what!!!   Read more →

Barbara September 9, 2015 2 Comments Permalink

The Day the IPad went on Vacation

Screen Shot 2015-07-14 at 4.01.47 PMSummer vacation, moving, unpacking, settling in, etc have all added up to me letting Mr Rockstar have WAY too much IPad time in the last month or so.  It is just so tempting to let him have it since nothing calms him down like the IPad and it is about the only time I can leave him alone without having to check in on him every 3-5 minutes.  However, it has officially has spiraled out of control.   Read more →

When Bad News is Good News

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Mr Rockstar just finished his second week at the Children’s Autism Center (CAC) summer Bridge program.  So far it has been amazing.  There is part of me that always starts to doubt that there is anything “different” about Mr Rockstar.  Maybe it is all in my head.  Most of the people around us don’t seem to notice.  All of my friends tell me he seems perfectly normal.  I start to doubt myself and think maybe he is just a stong-willed kid and I am a failure as a mom.

But the therapists at CAC aren’t questioning his diagnosis.  Actually they have had two pretty severe bouts Read more →

Learning Limitations

We finally sold our house, bought a house, moved everything and have been slowly digging out of the boxes.  In the meantime life goes on.  Today we were supposed to go strawberry picking with a local moms group.  But it rained all day yesterday and it is only 55F today and still quite wet.  Given Mr Rockstar’s tendency to complete meltdowns when he gets unexpectedly wet, strawberry picking on a wet day would be like trying to navigate a mine field.   Read more →