Stumped with a Struggling Reader? Take a Step Back. Don’t worry about Reading. Focus on the LOVE of BOOKS
How many of us when faced with struggling readers start searching out the perfect books for them or think if we just could get them to practice reading some more they would finally take off?!? The longer I have worked with my struggling reader the more convinced I have become that all the coaxing, pleading, bribing is not productive. What we need to do is make reading so exciting, so desired by them that they will want to do it on their own. Why do any of us do something really difficult? Why do we put in the hours of effort to learn a new skill or to pay off a huge debt? We do it because the reward is big enough. Not some little side bribe someone might offer us but the bigger goal, the WHY is something we want and desire. If we can get our kids to earnestly desire to read themselves then instead of dragging them kicking and screaming into reading lessons, we become their cheerleader and coach. We can come along side them to encourage and guide. Continue reading Learning to Read 2: Fostering the Love of Books
Teaching Mr Rockstar to read has been one of the biggest achievements of my life. At times it didn’t seem like we would get there but now I can say after over 4 years of work the end is in sight! He is reading (still a little behind for his grade level but he is reading!) and what is more he wants to read. He loves books. He is obsessed with books. Along this crazy journey I have learned a lot of valuable lessons. I kept thinking I should sit down and write a post on how we got to where we are today and I finally realized I just couldn’t do it in one post. So today is the beginning of my literacy series, tips for teaching struggling readers.
The longer we have struggled the more apparent it has become to me that the first place to start with teaching a child to read is with the correct goal in mind. You might think the goal is “To Teach My Kid to Read”. But subconsciously I bet your goal is “To Teach my Kid to Read by Age 5 (or when you miss that Age 6 or Age 7…)”. Continue reading Learning to Read 1: The Goal
It’s that time again. A time I dread. Time for reassessment. Or am I the only one who hates filling these out? Answering all sorts of questions about my child’s ability on a 0 to 3 scale. I always walk away feeling like a bad mom.
For example Continue reading Assessment Time
The past few weeks have been….amazing. I hate to even say that out loud lest that some how breaks the spell. Mr Rockstar over the years has slowly transitioned from violence, to screaming, to now calmly using his words!?!? Or maybe Continue reading Holding My Breath
Mr Rockstar is dyslexic. Shocked? Yeah me neither. I’ve suspected it for years (like when he first started to talk at age 3 and would actually say the ending sounds of words first and then the initial sounds? Yeah that was a fun times.) but I am finally willing Continue reading Dyslexia
I never thought I would be saying this. Mr Rockstar has started screaming in rage multiple times a day and I am actually thrilled about it! Continue reading Screaming
One of the biggest shocks of being a parent for me is how much you really have to teach your kids. Crazy right? Seems obvious but somehow it didn’t seem obvious before I had kids. There are so many things I assumed they would just pick up by observation? osmosis? nature? I think this is especially true when it comes to good manners. Surely they can just observe their surroundings and determine appropriate behavior? Or maybe a verbal correction/explanation one time will set them straight?
I think for some kids that are socially more sensitive this might work but especially when you are dealing with autism there is no way they are going to pick up on the subtle social cues. That is where the Montessori Grace and Courtesy lessons come in. Continue reading The Present Game – A Grace and Courtesy Lesson
About a month ago I meant to write a post saying how awesome all the kids were doing. For the first time in years we had a few WEEKS that were good with virtually no major meltdowns. Even better, the kids were playing for extended periods of times without requiring constant mediation from me. It was something I thought I would NEVER see. Mr Rockstar has never been able to just play. It felt like we had arrived at a restful oasis.
Fast forward to this week, Continue reading Three Days: How and Why to Do an Electronic DeTox
As we do all this therapy for Mr Rockstar and hours and hours of training, modeling, practicing, parenting, I wonder if any of it is really sinking in? Change seems so slow. I think this is a question we all struggle with as parents. Are my children really hearing the lessons I am trying to teach them?
Big Problem, Little Problem
When Mr Rockstar finally got back into behavioral therapy this summer, his new therapists started working on teaching him the concept of Continue reading My Little Therapists
Today something I have been dreading happened. Mr Rockstar’s aide was unable to come to co-op and sit with him.
First let me give you some background on why when I got the email at 11pm last night I could hardly go to sleep I was so worried. Continue reading It Happened